Are You A "How" Junkie?

Melissa Corley Carter
Jun 13
2 min read

Updated: Jun 16

How many times have you stopped yourself before getting started because you thought you had to have all the steps figured out first?

You know what you want, but you don't know how to get there. Or you don't know what you want, much less how to get there.

You're in a quandary, because you've been taught that to be a responsible adult, you need to know "how."

You don’t. And you won’t.

Life is dynamic. The conditions are constantly changing.

If you wait to start until you know all the steps, a) you’ll be waiting forever, and b) the later steps will become obsolete, and you’ll be invited/asked/forced (depending on your point of view 😉) to adapt anyway.

Trying to plan every step before you start limits your vision and shrinks your dreams, because it ties you to what you think is possible today. But each step you take creates new conditions from which new possibilities emerge. Steps you've never imagined will become available as you go.

By all means envision what you want. Imagine what it looks like, feels like, sounds like.

What will you feel when you wake up in the morning? What will you feel throughout the day? What will you feel at the end of the day? What kinds of people and activities will fuel your fire? What contribution will you be making?

That’s the “what,” and it’s a crucial guide for your decisions. It’s your true north, your goal behind the goal, the deeper outcome you’re looking for in anything from a specific project to life as a whole.

Let the detailed plan of “how” to get there unfold naturally with time. Let your mind relax and stop trying to figure it all out first. Instead, let your mind wonder and dream and ask questions.

✨ What do I want?

✨ What do I REALLY want?

✨ What does authentic success look, feel, and sound like to ME?

✨ What else is possible?

✨ How much magic am I willing to allow into my life?

✨ How much alignment and abundance am I willing to allow?

Let your body and soul receive the answers.

Identify ONE step first, and take it today.

Trust that more steps will become available tomorrow.